uniqueness of traditional wedding

#MY TRADITIONAL WEDDING

EPISODE 1

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It is every girl's dream to settle and have a family. To fulfill this dream, one has to get a lover, a friend, and a partner. There must be an agreement and understanding between the two parties.

In the African culture, the Maasai, to be precise, a young man Moran has to locate a beautiful girl, his confider, a playmate. 

The Moran will consult his father and the elders for advice on his decision to take. Some research will know more about the family and its history because they believe in ancestral doing. With his elders' help, the Moran will make a stop to visit the girl's family and ask for a hand in marriage from the girl's father, and other elders women are not allowed in such decisions. 

On the first visit, they will bring presents such as sugar (Esukari) and win (Almaiwa) for those who use it; it's a taboo to visit home empty-handed as a way of respect create a bond between the two families.

The elders will ask;

 I have seen a beautiful heifer in your home. I love it, and I came to borrow it.

Atoduua enkashe te enkang ino natonyora, aneuwua aomonu.

Is it a hairy heifer or a soft skin one because we have many?

Enaju arashu enasipa amu ekiata inkumok?

Which side? 'For a man who has more than one wife.'

When the conversation goes well, there is acceptance between the two families and understanding based on clannism and other traditional rites. The dates will be booked for other visits and the requirements. Some of the requirements are cattle, sheep, blankets, and honey, which add up to ten items; each item represent something;

• One bull- represents the friendship between father and son's son-in-law'.A cow and a calf- for the mother- represent enough milk supplies, a sample of food.
• Three male calves- specifically for the dad, 'he can choose to give other elders or first son.'
• Blankets for elders- a symbol of warmth
• The honey-represent lasting connection between the two families
• Sugar- for the rest of the women in the neighborhood
• One sheep- this is specifically for the mum 'Paker.'
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As requirements are being gathered, the man will undergo training and advice from elders. The Moran graduates' Olgesher' to an adult go through some cleansing rituals; the process takes more than a month. It's the last passage of rites for men, where elders bless their sons. They are taught how to be real men.

The girl's preparation starts where she goes through traditional rites of passage. 

She goes through circumcision and long talks from older women. They believe that circumcision is a graduation to womanhood. During the healing time, the girl is treated with natural herbs and takes milk mixed with blood; all this will help gain energy and fasten the healing. She is trained in being a good mother, a good wife, and how to join the new family. She is also taught how to borrow cattle, which was the first activity that shows that one is a strong woman.



After all the requirements are met and deliver to the family, marriage preparation begins.

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